Unruly neighbor

When we moved into this house a year ago we were so excited, there was a 9 yr old boy across the street, a 10 year old boy next door and an 8 year old boy up the street a little bit. The boys finally had some kids to play with.

The 9 year old across the street is pretty decent and we enjoy our boys playing with him. The 8 year old up the street... he is the one I mentioned before about always being home alone. So he tends to be rough, a liar, and has been known to just walk in my house (when the kids are all outside).

But, my big problem is the 10 year old next door. I will call him J. Every time J is over something in my house ends up broken. He has a tendency to leave just before "clean up time" and he is very bossy. I know all kids can be bossy, but he sets these rules that are absolutely ridiculous and he wants to enforce those rules in MY HOUSE! He also tends to help himself to whatever is in my house. He has helped himself to MY crafty items. He has helped himself to food and he has also helped himself to some of Mr. Man's tools and wood in the garage. When I say helped himself, I mean it. He doesn't ask and he even tries to sneak stuff out of the house.

The most recent incident with him occurred about 2 or 3 weeks ago. He came over, like he always does, at about 9:00 on a Saturday morning. He and Lefty ran out back to play in our backyard. About 10 minutes later I headed out to check on them and found several very large branches from my crab apple tree (which produces pretty pink flowers in the spring) laying on the ground and the two boys were climbing in the tree. I am not necessarily opposed to the tree climbing, but I don't want the tree destroyed either. I asked what happened and the 10 year old kid told me that he jumped on the branches until they broke. I was so upset I had to walk away. I got Mr. Man to go deal with it. I heard Mr. Man saying to both J and Lefty "No one is mad. We just need to discuss what happened so it doesn't happen again." I was thinking "No one is mad? What is he talking about because I am fuming mad." Anyway, we ruled the trees off limits. They went off to play out front riding bikes, etc.

Later that same day, Mr. Man was out front with the kids while they played. J decided to tie his large golden retriever dog to Lady Bug's bike. Mr. Man didn't see him tying the dog up but saw Lady Bug's bike go flying down the street as the poor dog panics and goes running off. So, Mr. Man stopped that one and then the next thing he sees is his boyhood wooden wagon (which means a lot to him) that has been tied to the dog and - once again - the dog panics and runs off down the street smashing this wagon into a million pieces.

Lefty came running in the house because he knew J was busted!

Mr. Man sent J home. J came back about 30 minutes later with $50. Mr. Man refused the money and tried explaining it wasn't about the money and that it was something special. Mr. Man told him that if he can't be respectful of our things then he can't play at our house. J returned home. He hasn't been back to play since.

I feel kinda bad, but at the same time I don't miss the kid. Does that make me mean?