Current Daycare Issues....

As you know, I work full time and so does Mr. Man. We have a friend who has been coming to the house to watch Lady Bug. We, of course, pay her to do this. She has had some times when she frustrated me because I am not sure she understands I can't just come and go from my job whenever I feel like it just because she wants the day off.
She has a bad habit of calling me an hour before she is supposed to be to my house and tell me things like her oldest son (who is 27) bought her tickets to see a show so she needs the day off or "My daughter doesn't want her dad taking her to the dentist so I am going to do it. I can't come over today." I get so frustrated with her. I tell her I can't just take off work. She will say things like "Maybe you could ask your boss if you could work on Saturday to make up the time." I am like "I don't want to work Saturday and I really don't think my boss would allow me to work Saturday." If she didn't love my daughter so much I would have to slap her and tell her to take a big fat hike......
Well, we may be telling her to take a hike anyway after this latest stunt she pulled on us.
Mr. Man talked to her several months ago about this new position at work because we would need her help picking up the boys from school in the afternoons. We offered to pay her more PLUS she would get every other Friday off. She said that it was fine and she would love to do that for us. This was so good, things were going great, Mr. Man accepted the new position and then whammmo, she came in this last Friday and told Mr. Man "I just won't be able to make that work."
So when I get home from work he tells me what she said and my head about came off and steam was coming out my ears. I called her and we talked and I explained that he wouldn't have accepted the position if I had known that. She said "well, I can still watch Lady Bug, but just not the boys. Maybe you can change your hours so you are off earlier to go get them." I told her that would not work... I am hourly and I can't afford to lose 2 hours pay in the afternoon, plus I highly doubt my boss would allow it.
I started making calls and found out none of the area daycare have spots available for after-school care for the boys. Even the school's own after-school program is full and they have an 11 person wait list.
I don't want to lose her friendship over this, but it I am so upset with her. This isn't the first time she has put us in a lurch. Last year she missed a lot of work, which also meant I missed work.
Mr. Man is so upset with the nanny that he is ready to fire her. He asked me to check into some other places for her to go. When we were looking for care before my friend started doing it Lady Bug was an infant then and the prices were outrageous!!!!! I mean one place wanted $1200 month. Who can afford that?
I called the YMCA by our house, which is where Spirit went to preschool and we love the teachers there.... Lady Bug will be 3 on February 7 and will be eligible for the preschool program there! YIPPEE!!! *doing my happy dance* And, the best news of all is that it will only be $6 more per week than what I am paying my friend now and I will have flexibility. I mean the hours are 6 am to 6 pm so, I will be able to drop Lady Bug off in the morning and then take the boys to school and then off to work! It will be so nice! Bad news is..... I have to put her on a wait list. Another friend of mine offered to help us out until Lady Bug gets into the YMCA so that will help a bunch.
Oh, and then this morning my friend comes in the door and says "What were you able to come up with for the boys?" I told her I couldn't find anything. That places are costly and even if we could afford it they are all full right now anyway. She said "wellllllll, I guess I could pick them and take them to my house with me and you could pick them up there?" I told her I appreciated that and I would discuss it with Mr. Man and get back to her. She then said something that made my jaw drop open.... "I didn't want to mention it earlier because I wanted to see if you could find something else first." WHAT????? Why would she add that comment? Why?
So anyway, here we go into a daycare adventure! Ugh!!!