Spirit got sent to the principal's office yesterday. *sigh* He claims a kid kept punching him in the lunch line so he turned around and said "If you don't stop I will bring a knife tomorrow!" A little girl behind them in line went and told a teacher.
Now this isn't the first time we have had this issue. When Spirit was in 1st grade he accidentally brought his pocket knife that his uncle gave him for Christmas and a little girl saw it and told the teacher. Mr. Man had to go to the school to pick up the knife from the principal. The principal said to Mr. Man "I need you to tell me that he didn't mean to do this." Mr. Man said "I can't say that because I have NO idea why he brought it." So the principal said "Just tell me he didn't mean to." So Mr. Man said "ok. he didn't mean to." She then said "Thank you. If you don't tell me that, by law I have to put this incident on his criminal record."
So here we are again, this time I feel it is different. The first time I don't think he meant to take it to school. This time he got so angry (which is what I can't understand) and threatened such violence. I asked him if he thought he'd really bring one and he hesitatingly said "no."
There was a teacher who saw what happened and her story doesn't make Spirit's at all. She says the kids were pushing each other and rough housing when the kid behind him fell and shoved into Spirit. She says Spirit turned around and immediately said he would bring a knife.
Mr. Man and I tried and tried to understand him last night. Has this kid bothered him before? Are other kids picking on him? Why did he get so angry? He doesn't have any answers for any of it. I don't understand.
I think there needs to be a consequence for saying that and being sent to the principal's office, but at the same time I have no idea how to punish this. He can't say things like that and get that angry. The principal made him call his dad from her office so she told Mr. Man that she felt that was enough punishment right there. But, I am not so sure.
Some days parenting really bites.
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Bless your heart. Parenting is a hard road sometimes. Kids can be kids and sometimes do things before thinking and it's all just a reaction, that's why they have no answers, they don't really know why they did it. Praying for you guys.
~Tabitha
I am wondering... is there someone he can talk to? not so much a therapist, at this point, but someone older, who has wisdom, but is maybe someone he is less worried about disappointing... (like you guys) he might feel more freedom to speak candidly about these issues...
What a tough day and a tough thing. I feel for you. I came by thru HerHousehold to say hello and read your cute and funny blog!
Melyssa from www.thedazeofus.blogspot.com
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